ASKING WHY IS THE KEY TO HEALING
Trauma Therapist
Online
Beneath the surface of your emotions lies a story. Want to see how it reads today?
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Trauma Therapist
Beneath the surface of your emotions lies a story. Want to see how it reads today?
Click here to begin.
what is the very most important thing in choosing a therapist?
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The single most important factor is connection. Research consistently shows that the first impression and the sense of safety you feel in those first sessions matter more than any specific method or technique. Therapy only works when there’s a natural “click” between therapist and client.
Like teachers or mentors, therapists all bring different personalities and motivations. Sometimes the chemistry simply isn’t there — and that’s okay. What matters is that you feel heard, respected, and at ease. My role is to hold a safe and calm space for you, and if I sense that I cannot genuinely offer that, I will be honest and may recommend we don’t continue together.
Tip: When choosing a therapist, trust your gut. If you feel understood and comfortable, you’re likely in the right place to begin healing.
aren't all therapists just the same?
Not at all. Therapists differ in important ways — some focus more on thinking and insight, others on feelings, body awareness, or action-oriented strategies. They also vary in how directive they are: some will guide you step by step, while others take a more collaborative approach. Research shows it’s not the specific method that makes the biggest difference, but the quality of the relationship and the therapist’s ability to stay empathically connected to you.
What matters most is how well your therapist’s style matches your natural way of learning and growing — whether you’re more of a doer, thinker, feeler, or observer, and whether you prefer autonomy or guidance.
In my own practice, I value thinking, feeling, observing, and doing equally. Having lived in the East for nearly a decade, I integrate practices that go beyond just “talking” and use embodied, non-verbal processes alongside traditional approaches. At the same time, I encourage clients to explore and self-educate in ways they enjoy, because the more you understand yourself, the more empowered your healing journey becomes.
Tip: When choosing a therapist, pay attention to whether their style feels aligned with how you naturally learn and process life.
is therapy for everyone?
Therapy can be deeply valuable for many people, but it isn’t always the right fit at every stage of life. Talk therapy works on the idea that exploring your thoughts and feelings out loud can bring relief and insight. As Lao Tzu famously said, “Watch your thoughts, for they become your words… your habits… your destiny.” Words have power and giving them space can support healing.
That said, talk therapy also has its limitations. Real, lasting change doesn’t come from reflection alone — it happens when insight turns into action. Sometimes people can feel better because the conversation flows more easily, but the real question is: “Am I acting differently? Is my environment shifting? Am I soothing myself in new ways?”
When therapy leads to new actions and healthier patterns, it’s working. If it doesn’t, other approaches may be more effective. Talk therapy has its time and place, but the ultimate goal is to help you not just think differently — but live differently.
Tip: If you’re unsure whether therapy is right for you now, ask yourself: am I ready to put insights into practice? That readiness is often the key to real progress.
what should I expect in therapy with you?
First and foremost, you can expect compassion. I will listen deeply, meet you with curiosity, and create a space where you feel understood. At the same time, I’ll also ask probing questions and offer feedback that may not always confirm your current view of yourself or your situation. That gentle challenge is part of the process.
The heart of our work together is helping you reconnect with your authentic Self — learning to hold space for the hurt, vulnerable parts of you rather than numbing or pushing them away. This can be one of the hardest yet most rewarding parts of therapy. Many of us unconsciously sell ourselves short, judge ourselves too harshly, or give up hope where we don’t need to.
My role is to question, guide, and reflect sensitively, always in a way you can relate to. Your role is to bring the courage to accept and explore. When both come together, therapy becomes a powerful path toward healing and growth.
Tip: Come prepared to be both supported and gently challenged — this balance often unlocks the deepest healing
what are the costs of therapy?
Before looking at numbers, it may help to ask a deeper question: How much is your health, your relationships, and your integrity worth? Sometimes the greater cost lies in not healing.
At TraumaTherapist.online, my fees are:
The investment depends not only on session length but also on frequency and what you feel ready to commit to your healing journey. For students and those unemployed, I offer flexible consideration on fees.
For scheduling, you can expect:
Tip: Think of therapy not just as a cost, but as an investment in your long-term wellbeing — one that can impact every part of your life.
how long will it take me to get better?
The length of therapy varies from person to person. Some clients feel meaningful shifts in just a few sessions, while others may need a year or more of consistent work. The truth is that healing is a process, and what matters most is whether therapy is helping you make progress session by session.
Several factors influence how quickly you improve:
Ultimately, therapy isn’t about speed — it’s about steady progress that truly lasts.
Tip: Don’t measure therapy only by time. Ask yourself after each session, “Did this move me forward?” That’s the real sign of healing.
who should choose for a minor?
The child’s consent and comfort should always come first. If a parent feels a strong connection with a therapist but the child does not, the process is unlikely to succeed — and may even reinforce the very issues therapy is meant to address. Just like adults, children need to feel acknowledged, respected, and safe in the therapeutic relationship.
It’s also important to reflect on why therapy is being sought. Children often unconsciously carry and express the unresolved struggles of their parents or caregivers. In this sense, therapy with children is most effective when parents (or other key adults) are also willing to reflect on their own patterns and contributions.
Tip: If you’re considering therapy for a child, make sure the child feels included in the choice — and be open to exploring your own role in their wellbeing too.
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